Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
Therapy, at its heart, is a practice of understanding one’s self on a deeper level.
This can include:
The mind –
- Why can’t I stop worrying?
- Where does that internal critical voice come from?
- What do I do with it when it is so loud?
- What do I do with my thoughts?
The heart/emotions –
- What is the point of emotions, anyway?
- Why am I so moody or angry or fearful all the time?
- What does my vulnerability have to do with wellbeing?
The body –
- What does my body have to do with my anxiety/depression/mood?
- How is it connected to who I am?
- How can I truly love my body when culture teaches me how flawed it is?
The spirit –
- Who am I really?
- Why am I here?
- What am I here to do?
- How does my spirituality/religion inform my life choices?
My particular approach to therapy is rooted in the belief that there is intelligence in and reason for all of your symptoms, even if on the surface, they seem dysfunctional.
By getting curious about your experience rather than judging it, we have much more of a chance of actually understanding the root of whats happening, and then, resolving it.
There is a saying in therapy: what we can feel we can heal. What we resist, persists. The more we allow ourselves to feel everything, the more we begin to experience how strong, capable, and free we actually are.
It’s not a matter of letting go~ you would if you could. Instead of saying let it go, we should probably say let it be.
Anxiety, when out of control, can feel like a prison; like you are a prisoner to your own mind.
A little bit of anxiety is not in itself a problem; everyone worries and experiences fear throughout their lives.
In fact, some anxiety can be healthy; for instance, it makes sense to feel worried when someone we care about is ill, and it’s healthy to feel nervous if something important to us is threatened.
However, when anxiety, worry, or fear begins to dictate what we do, when it prevents us from living our fullest life, or when we are unable to shift our attention away from worry and back to the moment at hand is when it becomes unhealthy.
If you are struggling with some form of debilitating anxiety, I can help. By combining mindfulness techniques with other evidence-based curriculum, we will work together to overcome your limitations with anxiety, strengthen your ability to tolerate stress and fear, as well as identify the underlying message in your anxiety (the wisdom in it), so that you can actually move towards resolution and a fuller, freer life.
In depression you care about nothing. In sadness you care about everything
Depression is often like an iceberg; it acts as a kind of frozen, protective barrier against deeper emotions that exist just beneath the surface.
As with many psychological challenges, it seems the most efficient way to approach depression is to honor its intelligence. (Yes! It has a purpose and I can help you identify it).
You can learn to feel it, listen to its message, and develop skillful ways of working with and through it so that you can regain your vitality, joy, and balance in life.
One of the greatest gifts in this work for me is witnessing people transform painful and stuck patterns like anxiety and depression and reclaiming their lives.
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